The "Working Mom" Thing

Oh, to be a “working mom”. When my kids were younger, I was fortunate enough to be a full time stay at home mom. After starting my business back up 3 years ago, I reluctantly began to identify as a “working mom” and it was weird. It was something new that I didn't know how to adjust to, but as my business gradually grew, so did that title and what it really meant.

With my kids then 8 & 10 and in school all day, I (foolishly) thought it’d be more manageable to juggle the whole "work thing". What I neglected to factor in was the work-work behind the scenes and how consuming all of that can be! When they were little, I took clients out of my home on a VERY part time basis; the client would come, would leave and that was it. Maybe I spent some time making a brochure or creating meetups (I ran a Spiritual Discussion Group), but it was hardly consuming. I had a fraction of the clients I do now, I didn't advertise, didn't do networking, didn't have any social media accounts to manage and definitely didn't have much in the finance department to worry about and balance. Running a “real business” and all that entails is quite different than managing a hobby!

It’s hard being a working mom. My counters are often sticky and my sink is regularly full. Dinner isn’t usually figured out before 4:30pm (unlike in the old days when I’d often start preparing dinner around 2pm). I’m happy that I can volunteer at school sometimes at least. That’s the benefit of being your own boss and scheduling your own hours. I've got lots of clients who wait a long time to see me for an evening or weekend appointment - scheduling around my kids is a priority so those later afternoon/evening and Saturday hours are hard to come by! Sometimes it’s a bummer when my husband has to work late and I also have clients or a workshop scheduled, but my kids are older now (11 & 13) so they make due just fine on their own at home. I prefer not to be away from home when they're at home, though. It's just one of the sacrifices I make for my clients/students. (My kids aren't terribly heartbroken to stay home and watch YouTube or play video games, though.) 

I get up early most days with enough time to meditate and then get to yoga or the gym. I discovered that when I start my day this way, I’m beginning with my tank FULL so when the demands of the day start, I’m not being tapped out before I even begin. I originally picked 5am wakeups because logistically, it was the best time for me to go with my husband's work schedule when my kids were still pretty little. I discovered that I LOVE being awake before sunrise. To arrive home with golden sunlight is so motivating and energizing. I never regret waking up early to get my fitness in. My kids always appreciate a chipper mom with sweaty hair waking them up versus a tired mom yelling from her pillow for them to wake up!

It’s a balance, when work is going great and getting all my focus, the house and family may suffer a bit. The reverse is true as well. It’s important to be okay with that pendulum swing. We do the best we can. I take help where I can and lower expectations of perfection! I don't sweep every day anymore and I hired a monthly cleaning service. It’s not worth getting bent out of shape about certain things and I don't have to prove to myself that I can do it all on my own- I don't have to! 

When I DO find myself getting worked up and easily frustrated, however, I KNOW that it’s important to schedule some “me time” ASAP. Shameless plug—my favorite way to do that is to receive a Reiki session. I definitely do practice what I preach. I find that getting Reiki really does help to shake off the b.s. drama that we bring onto ourselves! Self-care is not selfish, it’s self-preservation! Reiki just sort of readjusts us, reboots our physical well being and our mental state as well- and an added bonus- connects us deeper to our spirituality if we are ready for that! These benefits make receiving Reiki a priority in my own life. Whether a “working mom” or not, it’s important that we make that time for us because if we don’t, no one else will. It directly benefits everyone around us when we take that time out to make ourselves a priority!

Abstract Imagery

While connecting with my clients, I am able to receive messages clairvoyantly. This is something that developed over time and I'm now able to rely on it as part of my chakra readings. When receiving images, I do my best to understand what they mean by how it makes me feel, what I'm shown and what I hear clairaudiently. Sometimes there's room for error in interpreting these messages. Mostly I am able to convey the message through the images I'm given, but last week I had two incidences where what I said to my clients wasn't immediately understood, so I backed up and delivered the imagery exactly as I saw it and when they heard that, it made more sense to them.

In one of the client's, when I was at the heart I saw a whitish material which reminded me of mozzarella cheese before it is balled up. The feeling I got was that there was a buffer between her and a loved one. I then stepped in to interpret it as if the spouse wasn't hearing her or "getting it" in some way- that there's a gap in their communication/undestanding. When I delivered this message to her she said her husband passed away over a decade ago. I hadn't picked up on that, but she said she feels him close by and communicates with him regularly. So I described the imagery to her and concluded that him being in Spirit could be how I saw that buffer; that squishy place between them of the ethers of him being in Spirit and her still being in human form. The next client is having marriage difficulties which I already knew about. When I got to her heart it appeared like she'd been shot through it, although it was clear and open, just like a hole where you can see straight through to the other side. In the image, she sort of looked down at this open hole and had shock on her face. My brain twisted that to being stunned by hurtful words, perhaps by others. She shrugged off that assessment, but when I told her about how I perceived the image- she resonated directly to it.  

It's important to deliver the messages as clear as they come in. Often our human self will twist and analyze experiences - interpreting and perceiving things through our own filters-- psychic healer or not! These two sessions helped to highlight that lesson. Our minds can overanalyze and interpret when the answer is simple and right in front of us. I do my best to share the whole picture with my clients so that the messages can be delivered as clearly as possible and will continue to do so.  Each day we grow and learn, a never ending process! I am so grateful to have open and willing clients to experience this together with.